Men work hard to provide. We sacrifice things we enjoy to blend into relationships. Men work hard to fix things. And when the relationship ends, we have feelings of failure, guilt, shame, sadness, and anger. On top of that, reaching out for help is a sign of weakness. What happens … a feeling of isolation. We need to connect!
What a sad paradigm. We set ourselves up for emotional hell.
It doesn’t have to be that way. What if we could connect with other guys going through the same thing? What if we could learn from each other? What if we can help provide a shoulder to lean on during this hard time?
Each month, The Divorce Men’s Network provides an open house – it is a relaxed way to find out what we’re all about. So you may be thinking, “who comes to the open house and what is it like?”
Guys new, mid-way through and those completed the divorce process come. After a short introduction, we split up into smaller groups of 3 or four and discuss each other’s situation. Then we come together as a larger group and discuss more significant issues.
There is great benefit coming to our open house:
- Connect – We talk and share our stories. Ours stories end up not being so different or have many similarities. When we start to see these similarities, a connect is made.
- Learn – Because men coming to meetings are at different stages of divorce, we learn from each other. Guys just starting the process learn from guys mid-way through and those that have finished the process. Guys mid-way through learn from guys already divorced. And guys that are divorced help the man coming through the process and develop friendships.
- Help each other – Not only do we learn from each other’s stories be we share advice. We also listen and understanding. And dare I say, we emotionally support each other. Whoa guys, now don’t get scared if the dreaded “e” word.
Get rid of that isolated feeling. Connect. Learn. Help. When you come to a meeting to help yourself, you help everyone and together we will build a great community of men!