It feels like you’re in a dating nightmare. You’re body temperature rises, you get that hot, uncomfortable feeling. You’ve have that fake, half pierced smile on your face, just to be nice. Your hands sweat. You try to make small talk while inside your head you are trying to think of your exit strategy.
Or maybe you’re just saying “really?”, and just laugh at the whole thing. Either way, in the end you just want to get the hell out of there.
Reflecting back on dating, I was there too many times – bad dates and just going through the motions and picking a time to exit. Now they are hilariously funny stories, but when they were happening … well, not so much.
At our October 12th meeting we share bad first date experience. One man shared a story where his date said “You know, I’ll need to do a background check on you.” Say what?
Luckily we had professional match maker, Michelle Braun, from Elite Private Search (affiliated with It’s Just Lunch), at the meeting. We inter-mixed dating horror stories with dating tips:
- How many drinks should you have on the first few dates? Rule of thumb is one drink for the number of dates (one drink on first date, two on second). After two, use your best judgement.
- Where to meet on the first date? Make it a fun, public place like a drink at a bar or coffee at a coffee shop.
- How long should the first date be? No more than two hours. (Personally I like the one hour rule – always keep them wanting more.)
- Wehn trading messages online, what are ways to know she’s interested in you? How quickly is she responding to texts, emails or phone calls? The faster the more interested. Has she expressed interest in meeting you?
- So, what do women really want in a man? Someone that makes her laugh, can have an intelligent conversation, asks interesting questions, and his appearance shows he cares for himself.
Some of the stories we shared were: “Schedule sex with me Sally.” The exceptionally good at oral sex septuagenarian (so she says). Or the cancer survivor princess who requires that her boyfriend pays for everything (because she deserves it).
I’m not sure if I’m turned off by all the stories and never want to date again (well I am remarried now, so no need to answer that one). Or do I laugh my head off and want to go out on dates just to be able to share such incredible stories (well the wife would get mad)!!
I share this to let you all know what a Network meeting is all about:
- Connect by sharing stories
- Learn from experts and from one another
- Support and advocate for each other
- Create strength through numbers – a community
Please join us at our next meeting. By coming to a meeting to help yourself, we help each other, and together … we build a community.