I’ve lived through many a Valentine’s Day in my 53 years, and rarely was one smooth sailing. I was always wondering, will she like it? Was I romantic enough? Did I spend enough money? Is dating on this special day worth it?
Over the years my mind settled down, not playing as much games on me. And I grew less worries about making it “the right Valentine’s Day” and more about, “this is me and who I am”.
Sure I still want to be a great partner and still have a bit of romanticism within, but the years have weighed upon my fun and romantic outlook.
There is still many a guy that goes through what I do/did so on February 7th, we invited professional match maker Michelle Braun from Elite Private Search, an Its Just Lunch affiliate. Michelle has not only been through many Valentine’s Days, but she’s heard a lot about them from her clients and other women. Our goal was to understand and perhaps dispel the high expectations women have on men for Valentine’s Day.
Here were a few of her tips:
- Question: When dating, when should you give a gift on Valentine’s Day?
- Answer: It’s not about the length you’ve been dating, it’s about the conversations you’ve had. And when you do buy something, search for something that shows you’ve been listening to her and know her.
- Question: What does it mean if you do go out on Valentine’s Day (or any special event)?
- Answer: It’s more of a reflection on you than on the relationship. Going out on am important day/event suggests you are either serious or getting serious about the relationship. So think about what you’re trying to communicate before you make plans on a special day.
- Question: What is a good first date?
- Answer: Really, just choose any activity that is lighthearted and fun. Do an activity where you can not only talk, but you can learn a bit about each other.
Those are just a few bits of advice we learned. But there is so much more to our meetings. One member shared his stories about “If we do it now, it will be our last.” It’s those stories, when we share with other guys in the room that create camaraderie. Connections are formed and I’ve seen many men form long relationships by coming to our meetings.
There is some much more to our meetings than learning from experts and creating friendships with like-minded men. I invite you to come and experience what we offer. When you help yourself, we help each other and together we are building a powerful community.