This is one of the most popular topics we’ve had recently, so popular that after the August 10th meeting, men were asking when were going to offer this Finding Purpose workshop again.
Finding Purpose, Unlock your Passion is a five step process about reflecting on your life and connecting it back to being in the flow.
We developed this process to help men bring focus to their life during and after the divorce process. Why is this so important?
Because when we are married, our social life and our roles as father, husband… are defined by our marriage. And feedback from a lot of men state that they lose who they were in the marriage. So when the marriage ends, we lose our identity. We may struggle with what to do next, or our meaning or purpose (their purpose was lost when divorce occurs).
Well, so you may think. But if you’ve done your homework and truly defined your purpose, marriage is not a factor in your purpose. It is portable and goes with you where ever you are or with whomever is next to you. I was recently listening to a Tony Robbins CD Finding Your True Gift. He summed it up pretty well, that your gift (passion) is something no one can take away, it’s yours. And it’s not a skill in which you excel; your gift transcends skill. It is your true core.
Five Steps to Finding Your Passion
So how do you get there, you know, to find your passion?
- Step One – you have to peel back the layers of your life. Reconnect with your true self. Some experts profess you can do this by reconnecting with your teen years as these are the years we begin self definition. We have a set of 15 quick thinking questions we found from an article, Life on Purpose: 15 Qestions to Discover Your Personal Mission, by Tina Su.
- Step Two – Discuss “Flow State” with someone. During meetings we pair into groups of two or three to dive deep into conversation. Flow state is when you are doing something that makes you feel alive, where you lose track of time. Read our recent Finding the Flow blog for more information.
- Step Three – Write three list: 1) what you’re good at (skills), 2) what you enjoy doing (how you use your skills), and 3) what gives you a feeling of being fulfilled (connects 1 and 2 with Flow State). We found this great idea from Janet Mock in her article Connecting to Your Passion & Finding Your Purpose
- Step Four – Discuss common themes within the three lists. It is uncanny how these lists are connected if you are truly connecting with your passion.
- Step Five – bringing it all together with Do, Who and Value. Your mission usually connects what you like Doing, with Who you like doing it to and what Value you bring to them (what you’re good at)
Now, since you’ve gone this far I challenge you to one of two things: 1) complete the exercises above with someone, or 2) come to a Divorce Men’s Network meeting and let us help you Find your Passion!